Laid and Confused
256 pages | hardcover |
One brave sex columnist takes a refreshingly honest, deeply researched, and frequently hilarious deep-dive into the cultural crisis of bad sex.
Far more alarming than the millennial “sex recession”—the phenomenon of young people having less sex than previous generations—is that we’re in the middle of a bad sex epidemic that everyone is suffering from. Despite major advances in sex positivity and technology, we haven’t moved the needle on better: we’re still quietly enduring unsatisfying sex, whether that’s resigning ourselves to the same three positions we secretly hate, or lying when our Bumble date asks if we’re “close”. We’ve optimized everything except our own pleasure.
After going viral for a column calling out bad sex on her college campus, Maria Yagoda launched a career as a sex columnist at Vice, earning a global following for her wit, vulnerability, and expertise. But still, most of the sex she was having landed somewhere between passable and “huh.” In search of understanding, she consulted therapists, psychologists, dominatrixes and sex toy creators, as well as people of all genders and sexualities, and put her own sex life on the line—from hiring a sex coach to a “masturbation meditation” Zoom seminar—in order to pave a new path forward.
Pitched as Come as You Are for the Trick Mirror audience, Laid and Confused presents a fresh, funny, and compassionate analysis of our current sexual moment, and offers research-based tools that will empower readers to craft the deeply pleasurable sex lives they deserve.
